Did you ever wonder what the hell Axle Rose knew about Patience? He's one to talk, huh? I see it around me all day long, people demanding from others immediately but then demanding patience when the demand is put on them. The worst of it is me, I keep trying to teach my child patience, but have none with him.
Sit down, now!
Stop that, now!
Get down, now!
These are things I say over and over and over. All. Day. Long. I forget frequently that the kid is only 2 and his impulse control is non-existant. But, mine has had quite a few years of training; you would think it would be perfect by now. HA! Hardly. How did I get this way? More importantly, how do I stop?
I thought to myself, I should start meditating. Then realized, I hardly have time to shower and do my hair, how am I gonna medidate? Peace, quiet and stillness are 3 things that are rarely ever together in my home. Even now, the baby is in bed, but I hear the THUD THUD THUD of the treadmill as my better half works out. No TV, no radio, no other noise except THUD THUD THUD. This is as quiet as it gets, I consider myself lucky.
Back to patience, it's elusive to me. I'm not bad with it in public, although I do get irritated at the supermarket when there are only 2 lanes open on a Saturday morning, only one being full service, and 15 people with full carts waiting to check out. Really? Is that how you want to start a weekend? There are plenty of people standing around that can check us out. UGH! See? This is what I mean, I can't help myself! Even as I type, I am irritated and impatient with the Supermarket. AND THAT WAS 5 DAYS AGO!! This vicious cycle has got to stop. Then this carries over in my dealings with my family.
I read somewhere that there's a woman that makes her New Year's resolutions on the first of every month. This way she doesn't lose sight of the things she wants to accomplish. Maybe I should try this? I know it's the 3rd of February, but maybe if I pick one thing this month to work on, it won't be so daunting.
RESOLUTION FOR THE MONTH OF FEBRUARY:
Exercise more patience with my loved ones. Especially with my child. Get creative!
The way you treat your child is the way they end up treating others. Think of that every time your patience runs thin. How do you want your child to be with other adults or other children? They look to you for how to act in every situation.
ReplyDeleteI was going to say something mean as a reslut of my impatience, but my better half reminded me that it's my decision to put my thoughts out into the world and I must take it like a man. I guess, thanks for commenting. See? I can be better! :)
ReplyDeleteNo person or parent is perfect. Yes, children are sponges they will learn good and bad habits from us. That is life, it's the way it works. Strive to better yourself, don't strive for stepford mom perfection. For that leads to an overindulged child and there is nothing worse than that! :0)
ReplyDeleteHey there. I hate to break it to you, but you are bad with patience in public if a simple grocery line is still bothering you 5 days later! Take a breath, its only groceries honey!
ReplyDeleteEmotions are not something you can turn on or off, its what makes us human. You can't stop in the middle of crying and say ok now laugh hysterically. Too much pressure on yourself girl! This is what I do. Instead of saying How can I become more patient? How about saying, what triggers me to become impatient? If I know what triggers it, can I assess and react to the situation different next time?
Someone once told me patience is a nice word for temper, and they go hand in hand. As a Mother, I know those words are gold. I watch my temper, I know what triggers it and its helped my patience. Hope this helps, love the site. Happy blogging.